I’m sure you’ve told your spouse hundreds of times, ‘I love you.’ But sometimes it’s not what you say; it’s how you say it that has the greatest impact.
Have you ever been on the beach when a plane flies overhead dragging one of those signs behind it? I once saw one that said, ‘Julie, will you marry me?’ Shortly after the plane flew by, I saw a woman jumping up and down in joy, screaming, and hugging her friend. I guess that was Julie.
Julie’s husband proposed using the same words as most men. But the way he said it was special and Julie will never forget it.
Your assignment this week has an easy part and a hard part. The easy part is to tell your spouse, ‘I love you.’ The hard part is to do it in a way they will never forget.
I actually got this idea from a boot camp alumnus who sent me an email to share all the unique ways she said, ‘I love you’ to her husband. She gave me permission to share her ideas with you. I hope they inspire you and get your creative juices flowing. She wrote:
1. I spelled ‘I love you’ with canned cheese and crackers and left it with his dinner.
2. I wrote ‘I love you’ on the shower wall with dry erase markers.
3. I painted ‘I love you’ on our rock which he keeps with him always.
4. I spelled ‘I love you’ with peas on top of his mashed potatoes.
Here are some other ideas:
1. Page your spouse with the message ‘1-4-3’ which is code for ‘I love you.’
2. Make a photo collage in the shape of ‘1-4-3’ or ‘I love you.’
3. Hang a big ‘I love you’ sign from your staircase.
4. Make a home video of you singing ‘I love you’ and play it for your spouse.
5. Convince the manager at a store to let you announce over the loud speaker, ‘Honey, it’s (your name) and I just wanted to say I love you.’
If your spouse gets this email, then your job this week is harder because you need to come up with an original idea not on the above list. When it comes to ‘I love you,’ originality rules.
If your spouse doesn’t get this email, then go ahead and pull from one of the ideas above, or come up with your own idea.
In any event, say ‘I love you’ this week in a way your spouse will never forget. I know you’ve said it hundreds of times. But we all need to hear it again and again. ‘I love you’ never grows old. Especially when you find new ways to say it.
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Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.
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"So much that I'd do anything as long as I was with you." "I love you so much that I can't imagine my life without you." "My love for you is as big as the universe." "More than you can imagine."
How do you respond when someone says "I love you too soon"? ›
Things You Should Know
- Tell them you love them back if you're sure you feel the same way: "I love you, too. You make me so happy."
- Explain that you need more time to think if you're unsure: "I need to take a couple days to reflect. ...
- If you both say "I love you" for the first time, do something special to celebrate.
Love is more than just a feeling or emotion — it's an action that requires effort, expression, and commitment. Saying “I love you” is not enough, especially if your actions do not align with your words. You cannot claim to love someone but continue hurting or neglecting their needs.
How do you say I love you in the deepest way? ›
99 ways to say “I love you” with words:
- I adore you. You're the one for me. I value you. ...
- My love for you can never fade. You've touched my heart in ways I can't describe. I love you more than words can ever express. ...
- My heart aches for you. I yearn for you every minute of every day. You're my dream.
There is no correct response. Unless you say something dismissive like “Thanks" you are not going to get it wrong I promise. You could say “see I love how cute you are" or “you make our love easy" or “I truly do feel loved by you" or any number of responses that involve how you feel.
Is saying "I love you early" a red flag? ›
Saying "I Love You" Too Soon
The first red flag in a relationship is when someone says "I love you" too soon. It is essential to slow down and be thoughtful about what love means. We all want a space to feel accepted for our authentic, aligned selves.
How to avoid saying "I love you too soon"? ›
If you feel that your significant other isn't ready for "I love you" just yet, you can use other phrases that communicate how you feel about them without using those emotionally charged words. Here are some ideas: "You're so important to me." "You make me happy."
When a guy say I love you too soon? ›
Most of the cases he wants you to get attached by saying it, or he's testing to see how much you're really into him based on your reaction. But my advice would be not to believe it if its too soon, nobody truly loves someone they just met, it's very rare or impossible.
How to tell if you love someone enough? ›
Signs you're in love
- You can be yourself. ...
- You're willing to put in effort. ...
- You're disinterested in other people. ...
- You want to learn about their interests. ...
- You prioritize their needs. ...
- Your feelings get stronger. ...
- You're grateful for them. ...
- You're thinking of introducing them to your family.
Enough to believe in our relationship, to stand by it through the worse of times, to have faith in our strength as a couple, and to never give up on us. Enough to spend the rest of my life with you, be there for you if you need, or want me, and never ever to leave without you, or to live without you.
"I am committed to you."
Love can be fleeting, so making a commitment shows your love is something stronger than an emotion. Commitment is choosing to stick with someone in spite of feelings or circ*mstances, so it transcends mere love.
What is a stronger way to say I love you? ›
"My heart is forever yours." "I want to spend my life with you." "You make me believe in love." "I feel so connected to you."
What is your answer if I say I love you? ›
My response would depend on the context of the situation and the relationship I have with you. If it's a friend, I would likely just say “I love you too.” However, if it's someone I'm in a relationship with, I would likely respond with something more intimate and heartfelt.
Can you reply me too to "I love you"? ›
Of course, if a person says: "I love you" and you want to say the same thing back to them, you can say in standard English: "I love you too" or "I also love you." But in the real world, many people just say: "Me, too." That is just a fact of English life [a joke but true].
How to respond to one love text? ›
Use "take care" to show love for the person.
As a response to "one love," the phrase "take care" extends and returns that love right back to the person who said it. Just like in English, you're telling the person to look after themselves until you see them again.
What to reply to do you really love me? ›
A good reply to the question "Do you love me?" depends on your true feelings and the context of the relationship. Here are a few possible responses: If you love the person:"Yes, I do. I love you very much.""Absolutely, I love you with all my heart.""I love you more than words can express."
